Archive for April, 2009
So it’s 2009. You want to be a responsible parent and not a wet blanket on prom night. And here are a few ideas:
1-Find out who’s driving, the time of the all evening plans ( dinner, dance, and post party fun).
2- Agree to a Check-in, or “Text in” schedule ahead of time. If your teen is more comfortable with either, agree up front. When they do it is more important than how they do it.
3-Have the reminder conversation up front about what may be going on around them-deflect peer pressure before it’s a problem.
4- Put key phone numbers, and even the cab company into their phone. It’s about choices. If their riding with someone and that situation’s not safe, they need to be able to make a choice of calling you, a cab,etc.
5-Plan to wait up, and let them know you’ll be waiting up when they get home.
1 – he must love his family, and stand by them.
2 – he always opens the door for ladies. always.
3 – he would (and could) slay a dragon for you – if he had to.
4 - he makes sure you are in on the joke. Never excludes you.
5 – he is secure in himself – and it shows.
6 – gets up and out on a beautiful day, just to soak it up.
7 – never feels sorry for himself.
8 – he works outside, just to work outside.
9 – is patient with children and inlaws.
10 – loves a cold beer.
11 – winks at you (only every once in a while – to keep it fresh)
12 – he can make you laugh (despite yourself)
13 – TRIES to listen.
14 – he goes out with the guys.
15 – has long lasting friendships.
16 – has a need to be physical, doing something.
17 – limits curse words.
18 – smells good as often as possible (but doesn’t point it out)
19 – he forgives.
20 – does that sexy thing with his jaw, and you can see it it move under the skin. (ladies, you know)
21 – takes care of the yucky jobs at home; garbage, killing bugs, etc. without complaint.
22 – doesn’t ask why you bought the shoes…
23 – doesn’t shave on the weekend.
24 – has a special nickname for just you.
25 -is always becoming a better man.
I’ve been selling some things on Craigslist lately just to make some spare cash…my old 35mm camera, outgown kids’ toys, etc.
Thursday I received an email from lady who wanted to buy Jack’s old bike. It’s a 12″ boys bike, Wal Mart special, $40 new and I was it selling for $20.
The lady emailed me that she wanted to get it for a little boy in her neighborhood because all the other kids had bikes and he was always left out since he didn’t have one. Then after the sympathy hook was set she asked if $20 was as low as I could go. Since I am a softy I told her she could have it for $15. She said she’d be over in the afternoon to get it.
Sure enough she showed up. I showed her the bike and then she called for the little boy, who was in her van, to come see. He came flying out the van, barefoot and happily screaming about his new bike. He hopped on and pedaled down the driveaway. It was a nice sight. She slipped me the $15 and we went to get the bike and load it into the back of the van. As I loaded it into the van the little boy tried to crawl in too saying that he wanted to ride with his new bike.
I’ll admit I had a brief spasm of compassion and almost told her to just keep the money. And after they left I couldn’t stop thinking about what I should have done. I convinced myself that it was okay to take the money because it was a business deal, she went on Craigslist with the intention of buying, etc. Then my conscience or guilt or whatever got the best of me and I emailed her.
I told her that I wanted her address so that I could mail the money back. It made me happy to see the little boy beside himself when he got the bike, and I just didn’t feel right keeping the cash.
Her reply made me all the more certain I was doing the right thing. Here it is:
“OMG! are you serious ? It’s strange that you do this because I am on disability and I was praying for this kid a bike. I cashed in change to buy it. Since we are home he has put a lot of miles on this Little Blessing , He loves it. I wish there was more people like you on this earth!”
Lady, you have no idea.
So I told her I was sticking the money in an envelope and I was glad the boy was happy. End of story.
An hour or so later I get another email from the lady. She tells me she appreciated the fact that I was going to send the money back, repeated the “more people like me in the world” line and then the shocker. She said she didn’t want me to send the money back. She suggested that instead I should put it in the offering at church on Sunday. That way, she said, it would be a blessing all around.
Okay…this was supposed to be a simple Craigslist “for sale” transaction and now it was going waaaaay beyond that. Her idea sounded great to me, so tomorrow morning the blessing will go to church and then who knows who will get it next.
They say it only takes a second – and it’s true. The guilty face you see above is a stealthy boxer who’s keen sense of smell and fast reflexes snatched two biscuits and two sausage patties in two seconds.
It was breakfast for the girls turned into a quick dog snack. Normally Jodi and I move plates up high when we walk out of the room.
But this was just for a split second….and he WAS sleeping (or so we thought).
I suppose if all I ate was bagged food whose main ingredient is “crude protein” I’d be snatching sausage biscuits too !
For the first time ever, I got a note that I owed taxes from the previous year—AND that it is due just one week after this year’s “4/15 house party”. I’d never seen this form before, and wanted to make sure I followed ALL the rules…..
Turns out the IRS was right, and I missed a few things last year- AND what is hilarious to me are the so called options you see on the form above. I could have chosen to :
- Contest the findings in tax court….
- “Not agree” with some of the changes…
- “not agree” with any of the changes…. –or-
- Pay my debt to society like a good little American tax payer….and that’s exactly what I did.
In the year of wall street scandals, CEO’s who “earned” millions while their company’s went bankrupt, and other scams- I figured the honest route would be the best…..once again proving that we as the middle class do our part to keep the country on track J.